So my hubby talked to his mom last night about this whole shower business. And she is concerned about the hard feelings it may create if she plans the shower. So the hubs has decided that we will plan the shower ourselves. Now I know the rules of etiquette say that throwing a shower for yourself is tacky – and I tend to agree. So I just don’t know what to do. Besides, there is the extra expense and time involved in planning it ourselves.
Look, I know it’s just a silly party. And I know what REALLY matters. My baby and my husband. That’s what it’s all about. Part of me doesn’t give a shit about a party. But part of me is also sad and disappointed. And envious. I want to share this happy occasion with my family.
But maybe I’m being unrealistic in my expectations? Am I being irrational to think that my mom may want to do something nice for her daughter?
You DEFINITELY deserve a shower. Your mom should do it for you, but if she won’t I hope someone else steps up and does one for you. And if you end up having to do it for yourself, while that’s really disappointing, you STILL deserve a celebration!
I say have a celebration if you and Hub have to throw it. Invite family and friends and gifts are welcomed and just enjoy this time. DONT STRESS THIS!
I agree with Roadtomotherhood & GG – PLEASE do not stress about this!
*Big Giant Hug*
I planned my own shower and just had my mom and mom-in-law split the cost. The best part about planning it yourself is that you can make it as simple as you want (and for me, that was super simple – no games, no gimmicks, I made the potted plant centerpieces) We had a lovely lunch at a restaurant, coffee, cake, and me opening presents. Total cost for 30+ people – about $300. Perfect.